Dear Dalia
Not being a needy person I have lived happily alone for 15 years, thankful for enough good friends to feel loved, enough attention from the opposite sex to feel interesting, but no long-term partner to fulfil that need for intimacy, which many of us suppress. I kept an open mind but secretly wondered if I was in a paradox, just too difficult for the types of men I need to respect, while still being true to myself. “This is the package!’ A like –minded girlfriend urged me to join Vital Partners. She’d found someone through you, what did I have to lose?
I warned Sam when I joined Vital Partners that I would be a challenge. My expectations were of some outings and perhaps increase my circle of friends – maybe even find someone for a couple of girlfriends who were intrigued by my new adventure!
I found that over the four months all the people I met were of similar ilk to me, genuinely looking for a permanent relationship, ‘doing’ something with their lives, and generally happy in themselves. But the plane rides and the Dom Perignon (yes, really) weren’t enough. You and Sam got to know me better through my feedback and just kept working away – then suddenly it all came together.
I thought I knew everything about dating, ‘Chemistry’? A big ask! Compromise and negotiating will be the order of the day’. ‘Relationships are hard work-not 50/50 effort, but 100/100’. Sometimes we’re not as smart as we think! I urge all of your clients to meet EVERYONE you recommend. The worst thing that can happen is that you meet someone “Nice, just not for me’. Don’t have any prejudices about distance, age, or what they ‘do’, or you may miss an opportunity to be as happy as we are. It’s early days but I’m excited, it’s a good feeling, and we’re only given so many opportunities, aren’t we?
So, thanks to you both for persevering with me. You’re real professionals who I can and will continue to recommend to anyone, including a dear widower at church who is very happy for me and asked if I could find him a girlfriend too. He has your number.
Sincerely
Alison