The moment you saw him, you were into him. To keep in touch, you gave him your number and started texting. A little back-and-forth and suddenly he stops texting. What happened? What did you do? What went wrong?
Those are the questions that haunt people who have to deal with someone who doesn’t text back. Nerve-wracking. Difficult time.
You wait by your phone… hoping for a response. But you get none. Why?
Let’s find out a few possible reasons.
He doesn’t like texting
Okay… don’t be surprised. There are people who hate texting. Seriously!
In this day and age, there are people who can take time off their phones and do something else. I know it sounds ridiculous, but I’ve met quite a few people. Even I do that sometimes, especially when writing.
But yeah, in today’s society, texting has become a part of our lives and someone who doesn’t text us back… that person can seem unsociable.
Music teacher Wendy says, “It took me a long time to figure out that people can hate texting. I loved texting and I’ve always used it as my medium of communication. But if I hadn’t thought about people hating texting; I wouldn’t have had the courage to ask people I was interested in on dates.”
But, before you jump to conclusions, why not try setting up an in-person date? He may really be into you but hates texting and hasn’t had the guts to say that to you.
He’s emotionally unavailable
What do I mean by that?
Here’s the thing. People become interested in different things. While a bad texter will eventually text you; someone who’s emotionally unavailable will let your text sink into a black hole.
Since there’s no real interest in his part; he could just be using your texts and neediness as a tool to stroke his ego. It just makes him feel good about himself… that a girl is chasing him.
If you rarely receive a response or if he keeps you hanging by the string; it’s a good sign that he is emotionally unavailable and is just giving you enough to keep feeding his ego.
Word of warning… run away from that kind of person.
Consultant Sandip says, “When life gets busy I don’t use my phone too much. But if it’s from someone special, I always make time to text them.”
But hey, don’t be so hasty on your decisions… because there could be another reason.
He’s just too afraid
He’s just too afraid that he might say the wrong thing and lose you.
Yeah! Happens to guys all the time. Especially with girls, they’re attracted to.
He doesn’t want to mess up. Alright? He wants a relationship to go as smoothly as you want. And are afraid that if they come off as too eager to chat over text they’ll come off as needy and desperate.
Business owner Sam says, “Sometimes it’s difficult to text people we like. We feel the pressure to design the perfect text and to make sure everything’s perfect. It’s complicated.”
So, the best way to test the water is to ask him out on a date… if you’re really into him. If he’s too shy or afraid to ask you out first; this will give him a massive boost to take things forward.
Now that I have your hopes high, here’s the kicker…
He’s just not that into you
Yep. Plain. Simple. Truth.
If he was into you, he would be doing all he could to get the communication between the two of you going. If he was into you, he would be talking with you, texting you more often. If he was into you, he would be interested in finding out more about you. If he’s doing none of those things… and simply not texting you, it could be that he’s not into you.
Again, there’s no way to find out if he’s too afraid or emotionally unavailable or a bad texter or just not into you through texting alone.
The best way is to simply ask him out or suggest going out with him.
I mean, if he accepts, he accepts it. Win-Win.
If he rejects you, he rejects you. You won’t have to spend your time with someone who’s not interested in you. And you have more time to look for someone who’s really into you.
Frankly, texting is a terrible medium for communication. We don’t get to see the other person, their body language, their facial expression, their tone of voice. All we see is a wall of text or lack of it, in this scenario. And the rest is… our minds thinking of possible scenarios and sending us on a wild goose hunt.
If he doesn’t text you… he could be a bad texter, or emotionally unavailable or just too afraid or maybe he’s not into you.
The best way to find out is to suggest going out with him and depending on his response either taking the interaction forward or moving on.
In case you didn’t get the hint, if he doesn’t respond to going out with you, he’s not into you. If he agrees to go out with you but disappears again; he’s emotionally unavailable. If he’s enthusiastic and wants to see you again… you get the gist.
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