As human beings, we are all susceptible to heartbreak, no matter how tough we are on the exterior, on the interior, we are all extremely vulnerable. If you have fallen victim to heartbreak, you’ll understand how hard it can be for people to move on. For some it will take a day or two, for others it’ll take months, even years.
Everyone has different coping mechanisms and do things a certain way that will help them ‘cure’ their heartbreak. The piercing truth about breakups and heartbreaks are they’re inevitable and everyone will have to experience it at some stage in their life. As painful as they may be, we have some expert tips on how to help you pick yourself up and move on with your life.
Accept the Sadness
Feel free to express all your sadness as much as you want. You should never repress your feeling of frustration or anger as this will only make it worse. Some people will purposely make themselves cry in order to release all the tension in their body and minds – this actually makes them feel better. Accepting the sadness is a strong step and should be done in order to assist the moving on process.
It Takes Time
No one ever said you need to get over your heartbreak in a specific amount of time. In fact, take as much time as you need. The time frame will vary with each individual and you can never really say for sure when you will get over someone. After a breakup, you’ll probably feel like you’re going to die, the world doesn’t matter anymore and your life has just ended right then and there. The truth is, you don’t need to think about what you’re going to do without your relationship – the future is too overwhelming to even think about. All you need to do is take it one day at a time and refocus on yourself. It will take time.
Now is the perfect time for you to lose all sight of hope. Your heart has shattered and you feel like there’s never going to be another person that you will love the same again. Have belief and hope in yourself at a time like this. You should know that being hopeful allows you to bring some positivity back into your life and it’s much needed. Be hopeful that things will get better again and you will be back to normal.
If you think that a one night stand or flirting with someone will make you feel better, you’re probably right – but only for a second. Rebounds will only make you feel good now but it will make you feel horrible later on. By having a one night stand or flirting with someone, you’re creating a new emotional attachment that will be hard for you to get rid of and this will create pain on either side. You need to think about yourself and about the rebound as well. It never plays out well.
This is probably the hardest step of all. How are you suppose to be positive when you feel like your whole world’s just been torn apart right? But you will pick yourself back up and forget about the pain you felt. The time you have now is precious – it’s your time. You need to focus on building yourself back up and be your own person. There’s never a correct way of doing it however you will figure it out on your own eventually. You may feel like the world has betrayed you now but down the line, you’ll realise that it was a lesson learnt.