When you’re in a relationship, you may not think about the bigger picture until you foresee a future with your partner. There are probably things you’d like to discuss with your partner or vice versa but for some reason, you both put it aside for another day. These topics should be spoken about openly and honestly at the forefront because it can be too late. Especially if you’re too far into the relationship.
Topics like money, children and marriage are sensitive things to talk about but are absolutely necessary. Here’s how to talk about them with your partner
When it comes to financial situations, it’s important to be on the same page and upfront. Some relationships may feel comfortable jumping into a joint account if they are comfortable and trusting. Others are quite the opposite and would rather keep their financials completely separate. One of the most common reasons for breaking up or divorce is a financial struggle. Lay it all out in your relationship if you’ve decided this will be a long term thing.
We’ve seen far too many relationships go through dating, engagement, the wedding and then break up because their views on having children are polar opposites. There is really no on to blame in these cases however, it should be something that is discussed when you start your relationship. Having children is something you commit to for the rest of your life so be sure to talk about this before jumping into anything fully committal!
Have you spoken about commitment? Does your partner even want to get married? Signing a wedding certificate may not be on your partner’s mind, they may feel indifferent about it – so this is definitely one thing you need to speak about. There are couples who would rather live together, have kids but not add the extra step of a wedding! So what is it that you and your partner want?