We’ve mentioned this topic before, but there are so many factors when taking the next step so we’ve decided to write another one! If you missed our first post, catch up here. So you’ve been dating or married for a period of time and now you want to take the next step. Whether it’s making it official, moving in together, getting engaged or having children, there are certain things you should consider before taking the next step. There are signs that you should look for in your relationship before making big life decisions together and ensure that these steps are right for you.
“The signs that the relationship is developing (and we all feel it in our gut) asks us to be more vulnerable and increase our level of intimacy,” Denny Jones, Dating Coach at School of Attraction
Building that level of trust between yourself and another person can be extremely challenging. Especially if you’ve been hurt before. If you and your partner fully believe that you have trust in each other without any hesitation, this is a great guide to taking that next step. Trust is an extremely tricky thing to gain if you’ve been hurt in the past, therefore, this is a major thing if you have full trust in each other.
You’re Both Accountable
Taking accountability for your actions can be difficult if you have never done so before. Putting aside your pride and admitting to your wrongdoings can be challenging however, its a step in the right direction. If you’re wrong but you never admit to them or you can’t seem to apologise, this is a major red flag. You probably shouldn’t be in a committed relationship and reassess how to take accountability for yourself.
Comfort in the Bedroom
If you’re comfortable with the level of intimacy in the bedroom and you have been able to work through any issues, this is also another step in the right direction. Being able to laugh through any awkwardness in the bedroom is a good thing, it means there is a level of security and comfort between you and your partner.
Being in a relationship or marriage doesn’t automatically mean that you’re united as one. Having your independence within your relationship is extremely healthy and highly encouraged. You should be able to be your own person, have your own hobbies and be with your friends and family without the attachment of your partner.