All sorts of things can happen on your first date – you may just say the wrong things all the time, or even worse; you may not be able to find the words and fill up that awkward silence between you two. The silence between the two of you can make the air feel uncomfortable, sometimes to the point that you may feel stressed out every single time you’re about to go on a date with someone new. On the other hand, dates can turn out amazing if there’s a good conversation between the two of you. Conversations that make you feel connected are filled with simple laughs and interesting exchange of stories, and here’s some tips on how you can make that happen!
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Learn More About Current Events
One of the simplest conversation starters would be current events. Talking about things that are going on in the world makes up a good way to make that initial connection.
Health and wellness expert Virginia Mealing highlights the importance of being informed about what’s happening in the world. “It’s something that doesn’t take much effort – just a quick watch of the news or scrolling through Facebook can sometimes be all you need. But it helps to foster conversation if you’re on a date, because it gives you something to talk about and you can also uncover a little more about your date’s beliefs and views.”
It doesn’t matter if it’s about news, the latest movies, or tech gadgets. This is one of the easiest ways to get to know your date.
Don’t Hesitate To Ask Questions
Simple – if you don’t know what to say next, you can ask your date so you could get to know them. This will make a good conversation piece because talking about yourself is the simplest thing that you can do. Some questions like: “Where did you spend your childhood?” “What college did you go to?” “What do you enjoy about what you do?” “What are the things you do on the weekends?” All of these are simple questions that make a good and pleasant conversation starter!
Give Your Date A Compliment
Giving a compliment is something that is a fantastic way to strike up a conversation. Firstly, it shows that you are taking note of something about your date. Whether it’s their clothing, their shoes, their smile, their hair or whatever it may be, it tells your date that you’re paying attention to something about them.
According to Ilona Nichterlein, an Australian therapist specialising in marriage and relationships, paying compliments to your date is a surefire way to engage them. “People can often feel awkward when receiving compliments as they sometimes don’t know what to say. But that shouldn’t stop you from giving them, because people don’t always hear them very often and it can be quite comforting and even rewarding to hear a compliment.”
From there, the conversation might even turn to fashion, shopping or what the best place to get a haircut around town is.
Let Your Date Talk And You Listen To What They Have To Say
It’s different from hearing what they’re saying – but you have to listen and understand what they’re telling you. Have you ever experienced being nervous on your date, and as they talk to you, your mind is racing, your heart is pounding, up to the point that you’re just hearing the words but don’t really understand what they’re saying?
While this may happen to a lot of people, you must pay attention, and here are two reasons why. First of all, if you really want to know the other person, you have to listen. Secondly, if you’re listening and part of the conversation, you’ll probably have follow-up questions that could result in a deeper and more meaningful conversation.
Laugh And Have Fun
Don’t be shy – laughing on your first date makes a good impression! How can you do that? Don’t be afraid to make silly remarks of yourself, keep everything light, or just humour your date without being offensive to others.
Australian lifestyle expert Glenda Bell stresses the need to be able to let the hair down and enjoy yourself. “At first, it can be hard to crack a joke because your own walls might be up or you don’t want to embarrass yourself too early. But the truth is that by having a laugh early on, it might put both of you at ease and the conversation will feel more natural.”
Both men and women love going on a date with people who can make them smile and laugh. People who laugh tend to look more attractive, and often are the gateways leading to a better conversation – or maybe taking the relationship to another level.
There’s no feeling quite like the butterflies in the stomach before going on a first date. You’re nervous, you don’t know what to expect, and you’re not sure about the right words to say. But with all of this info in your arsenal, you’ll be able to feel as cool as a cucumber. Who better to organise a first date with than Vital Partners?
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