The moment you saw him, you were into him. To keep in touch, you gave him your number and started texting. A little back-and-forth and suddenly he stops texting. What happened? What did you do? What went wrong?
Those are the questions that haunt people who have to deal with someone who doesnāt text back. Nerve-wracking. Difficult time.
You wait by your phoneā¦ hoping for a response. But you get none. Why?
Letās find out a few possible reasons.
He doesnāt like texting
Okayā¦ donāt be surprised. There are people who hate texting. Seriously!
In this day and age, there are people who can take time off their phones and do something else. I know it sounds ridiculous, but Iāve met quite a few people. Even I do that sometimes, especially when writing.
But yeah, in todayās society, texting has become a part of our lives and someone who doesnāt text us backā¦ that person can seem unsociable.
Music teacher Wendy says, āIt took me a long time to figure out that people can hate texting. I loved texting and Iāve always used it as my medium of communication. But if I hadnāt thought about people hating texting; I wouldnāt have had the courage to ask people I was interested in on dates.ā
But, before you jump to conclusions, why not try setting up an in-person date? He may really be into you but hates texting and hasnāt had the guts to say that to you.Ā
Heās emotionally unavailable
What do I mean by that?Ā
Hereās the thing. People become interested in different things. While a bad texter will eventually text you; someone whoās emotionally unavailable will let your text sink into a black hole.
Since thereās no real interest in his part; he could just be using your texts and neediness as a tool to stroke his ego. It just makes him feel good about himselfā¦ that a girl is chasing him.
If you rarely receive a response or if he keeps you hanging by the string; itās a good sign that he is emotionally unavailable and is just giving you enough to keep feeding his ego.
Word of warningā¦ run away from that kind of person.
Consultant Sandip says, āWhen life gets busy I donāt use my phone too much. But if itās from someone special, I always make time to text them.ā
But hey, donāt be so hasty on your decisionsā¦ because there could be another reason.
Heās just too afraid
Okayā¦ what???
Heās just too afraid that he might say the wrong thing and lose you.
Yeah! Happens to guys all the time. Especially with girls, they’re attracted to.Ā
He doesn’t want to mess up. Alright? He wants a relationship to go as smoothly as you want. And are afraid that if they come off as too eager to chat over text they’ll come off as needy and desperate.Ā
Business owner Sam says, āSometimes itās difficult to text people we like. We feel the pressure to design the perfect text and to make sure everythingās perfect. Itās complicated.ā
So, the best way to test the water is to ask him out on a dateā¦ if youāre really into him. If heās too shy or afraid to ask you out first; this will give him a massive boost to take things forward.
Now that I have your hopes high, hereās the kickerā¦
Heās just not that into you
Yep. Plain. Simple. Truth.Ā
If he was into you, he would be doing all he could to get the communication between the two of you going. If he was into you, he would be talking with you, texting you more often. If he was into you, he would be interested in finding out more about you. If heās doing none of those thingsā¦ and simply not texting you, it could be that heās not into you.
Again, thereās no way to find out if heās too afraid or emotionally unavailable or a bad texter or just not into you through texting alone.Ā
The best way is to simply ask him out or suggest going out with him.
I mean, if he accepts, he accepts it. Win-Win.
If he rejects you, he rejects you. You wonāt have to spend your time with someone whoās not interested in you. And you have more time to look for someone whoās really into you.
Conclusion
Frankly, texting is a terrible medium for communication. We donāt get to see the other person, their body language, their facial expression, their tone of voice. All we see is a wall of text or lack of it, in this scenario. And the rest isā¦ our minds thinking of possible scenarios and sending us on a wild goose hunt.
If he doesnāt text youā¦ he could be a bad texter, or emotionally unavailable or just too afraid or maybe heās not into you.
The best way to find out is to suggest going out with him and depending on his response either taking the interaction forward or moving on.
In case you didnāt get the hint, if he doesnāt respond to going out with you, heās not into you. If he agrees to go out with you but disappears again; heās emotionally unavailable. If heās enthusiastic and wants to see you againā¦ you get the gist.
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